Category:Humiliation

Humiliation play is the consensual use of psychological humiliation in a sexual context, whereby one person gains arousal or erotic excitement from the mixed and powerful emotions of being humiliated and demeaned. The humiliation need not be sexual in itself, as with many other sexual activities it is the feelings derived from it which are sought, regardless of the nature of the actual activity. It can be verbal or physical humiliation, and can be relatively private or public. Often it can become ritualized, and unlike some sexual variations it can also be easily carried out over a long distance or online. The distinction between humiliation and dominance in an activity such as erotic spanking is that the sought after effect is primarily the humiliation, the activity is just a means to that end. Whilst mild or moderate humiliation is not an uncommon part of BDSM or other sexual roleplay, humiliation play can be taken to a point where it becomes considered edgeplay by most people, either due to its extreme nature or due to the controversial views on its psychological impact. This is a highly subjective issue, and depends greatly on context.

Humiliation is not precisely the same as domination, as the bottom/devotee is not necessarily seeking to be ordered about, but does require that the humiliation come from a dominant space. Humiliation comes into its own as a sexual force when the devotee seeks the humiliation over and above the means, for example when being spanked is primarily valued because of the belittlement involved, not the physical sensation of the spanking. As such, it might be considered an eroticized version of what otherwise might appear to be paraphilia Humiliation can also be for a set scene or as an ongoing facet of a relationship.

Typical Examples

Humiliation is very open ended and entirely subjective as well as contextual. What one person finds humiliation may bore another. Broadly it can be divided into verbal, and physical aspects. The activities listed could be enjoyed for entirely non-humiliating reasons as well. Some sexual humiliation involves inflicting pain but much of it is far more concerned with ridicule, mocking, degradation and embarrassment.

Sexual roleplaying may or may not involve humiliation. For example, one person might play the part of a dog because they enjoy being mock-forced into it and the top will emphasize the lowness of the bottom's status as an animal, whereas another person might play the role of the dog without any element of humiliation, simply as an expression of their inner animal or playful spirit.

Verbal aspects might include:

• Verbal belittlement, such as "slave", "boy", "boi", "girl", "missy", "pet".
• Insults and verbal abuse, such as "fat", "ugly", "stupid", "worthless".
• Degrading references such as "slut", "tart", "bitch", "faggot" and "whore".
• Slighting of body parts or behaviors, such as disparaging or cruel references to breasts, facial appearance, genitalia or genital size, bottom, and slighting of mannerisms such as walking, responsiveness, standard of self-care.
• Having to ask permission for everyday activities such as toilet, or eating or spending money.
• Small penis humiliation, where scorn is addressed towards the supposed inadequacy of the male's genitals or his inability to please a woman (and by implication his essential worthlessness as a man and his penis becomes an object of play for the woman).
• Forced exhibitionism
• Forced repetition, such as being obliged to repeat back commands to confirm them.
• Mockery and ridicule.

Physical and tangible aspects might include:

• Ejaculating or urinating on the bottom's body or, especially, the face.
• Performance of menial tasks.
• Detailed accountability and control (micro-management) as to time spent or activities done, including list of jobs to do, precise directions as to how the housework is to be performed, exactly how to act and behave, and so on.
• Specific rituals and affectations to be adopted. This includes displays of subservience, such as lighting cigarettes, walking a pace behind the dominant, only speaking when spoken to, kneeling or eating after others, low status place to sleep, etc.
• Roleplaying "lower status" beings such as animals or babies (see human animal roleplay and adult baby play).
• Spanking, restraint or other BDSM activities.
• Prohibitions or restrictions on clothing, or (for men) feminization, cross dressing and/or sissification.
• Use of chastity belts or other means of erotic sexual denial.
• Wearing of external signs of "ownership" such as a collar.
• Having friends, family or strangers aware of or witnessing one's treatment (i.e.: public humiliation).
• Erotic objectification, where the bottom is cast in the role of an object.
• Embarrassment.
• Forced Sex or Homosexuality

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