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D/s, or Dominance and Submission, is a set of behaviors, customs, and rituals involving the giving by one individual to another individual of control over them in a BDSM erotic episode or lifestyle relationship.

Domination

Domination is the exercise, act, or practice of preponderant governing or controlling influence, and is frequently associated with Power exchange Relationships involving Dominance and submission. Dominance indicates a possession of qualities, skills or display of actions that create a state of domination. A person that gives domination as part of power exchange is commonly referred to as a D-type.

Domination generally requires three steps before it can be meaningfully achieved:

Understand the s-type
Accept the s-type
Add value to the existence of the s-type

Precise methods of “correct implementation” of the formula will depend entirely upon the specific needs of the potential s-type.

Submission

Submission is an act or state of conditional deference or yielding to a recognized D-type out of respect or reverence. Submission is not to be confused with Slaving though both are frequently associated with Power exchange Relationships involving D/s. A person that gives submission is generally referred to as an S-type.

Parameters

Physical contact is not a necessity for D/s to exist, and it can even be conducted anonymously over the telephone, email, or other messaging systems in a practice called cyber domination. In other cases, it can be intensely physical, sometimes traversing into SM, though not necessarily.

In D/s, both parties take pleasure or erotic enjoyment from either dominating or being dominated. Those who take the superior position are called D-types or Dominants, while those who take the subordinate position are called s-types or submissives. A switch is an individual who plays in either role of power exchange. Two switches together may negotiate and exchange roles several times in a relationship or scene.

Parameters will also include frequency of D/s practices which will often affect how the D/s is carried out. Major frequency types include the weekenders or bedroom only D/s, vanilla kink, 24/7, and the pro client/dom relationship. None is necessarily greater or lesser, they are simply different styles of practice, though it is recommended that like with all other kinks, new explorers start by practicing D/s with the low and slow principles.

Compare to M/s and top/bottom.

Variances

Dominance and submission, and the inner conflict and surrender connected with these are enduring themes in human culture and civilization. In human sexuality this has broadened to include mutual exploration of roles, emotions and activities which would be difficult or impossible to do without a willing partner taking an opposing role. These roles are not exclusive to sex, gender, status, sexual orientation or other discriminatory characteristics.

While participants are not discriminated when choosing a role for themselves, having a firm and informed understanding of consent, negotiations, and disciplines that are to be used during play is strongly recommended.

Specifics of D/s relationship styles and protocols, and even linguistic conventions will vary widely between practitioners; there is no precise one true way to perform D/s.

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-D/s, or Dominance and Submission, is a set of behaviors, customs and rituals involving [[power exchange| the giving by one individual to another individual of control over them]] in a [[BDSM]] [[scene| erotic episode]] or [[24/7| lifestyle relationship]].
+D/s, or [[Dominance]] and [[Submission]], is a set of behaviors, customs, and rituals involving [[power exchange| the giving by one individual to another individual of control over them]] in a [[BDSM]] [[scene| erotic episode]] or [[24/7| lifestyle relationship]].
+== Domination ==
+Domination is the exercise, act, or practice of preponderant governing or controlling influence, and is frequently associated with [[Power exchange]] [[Relationships]] involving [[Dominance and submission]]. ''Dominance'' indicates a possession of qualities, skills or display of actions that create a state of domination. &nbsp;A person that gives domination as part of power exchange is commonly referred to as a [[D-type]].
+'''Domination generally requires three steps before it can be meaningfully achieved:'''
+* Understand the [[s-type]]
+* Accept the [[s-type]]
+* Add value to the existence of the [[s-type]]
+Precise methods of “correct implementation” of the formula will depend entirely upon the specific needs of the potential s-type.
+== Submission ==
+Submission is an act or state of conditional deference or yielding to a recognized [[D-type]] out of respect or reverence. Submission is not to be confused with [[Slaving]] though both are frequently associated with [[Power exchange]] [[Relationships]] involving D/s. A person that gives submission is generally referred to as an [[S-type]].
 == Parameters ==
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 Physical contact is not a necessity for D/s to exist, and it can even be conducted anonymously over the telephone, email, or other messaging systems in a practice called [[cyber domination]]. In other cases, it can be intensely physical, sometimes traversing into [[SM]], [[chocolate and peanut butter analogy| though not necessarily]].
-In D/s, both parties take pleasure or erotic enjoyment from either dominating or being dominated. Those who take the superior position are called [[d-types]] or [[dominants]], while those who take the subordinate position are called [[s-types]] or [[submissives]]. A [[switch]] is an individual who plays in either role of [[power exchange]]. Two switches together may negotiate and exchange roles several times in a session.
+In D/s, both parties take pleasure or erotic enjoyment from either dominating or being dominated. Those who take the superior position are called [[D-types]] or [[Dominants]], while those who take the subordinate position are called [[s-types]] or [[submissives]]. A [[switch]] is an individual who plays in either role of [[power exchange]]. Two switches together may negotiate and exchange roles several times in a [[relationship]] or [[scene]].
-Dominance and submission, and the inner conflict and surrender connected with these are enduring themes in human culture and civilization. In human sexuality this has broadened to include mutual exploration of roles, emotions and activities which would be difficult or impossible to do without a willing partner taking an opposing role.  These roles are not exclusive to sex, gender, status, sexual orientation or other [[discrimination| discriminatory]] characteristics.
+Parameters will also include frequency of D/s practices which will often affect how the D/s is carried out.  Major frequency types include the weekenders or bedroom only D/s, [[Vanilla#Vanilla_Kink| vanilla kink]], [[24/7]], and the pro client/dom relationship.  None is necessarily greater or lesser, they are simply different styles of practice, though it is recommended that like with all other kinks, new explorers start by practicing D/s with the [[low and slow]] principles.
-While participants are not discriminated when choosing a role for themselves, having a firm and informed understanding of [[consent]], [[negotiations]], and [[disciplines]] that are to be used during [[play]] is strongly recommended.
+Compare to [[M/s]] and [[top]]/[[bottom]].
+== Variances ==
+Dominance and submission, and the inner conflict and surrender connected with these are enduring themes in human culture and civilization. In human sexuality this has broadened to include mutual exploration of roles, emotions and activities which would be difficult or impossible to do without a willing partner taking an opposing role.  These roles are not exclusive to sex, gender, status, sexual orientation or other [[discrimination| discriminatory]] characteristics.
-Specifics of D/s [[relationship styles]] and [[protocols]] will vary widely between practitioners.
+While participants are not discriminated when choosing a role for themselves, having a firm and informed understanding of [[consent]], [[negotiations]], and [[disciplines]] that are to be used during [[play]] is [[best practices| strongly recommended]].
-== Linguistic Conventions ==
+Specifics of D/s [[relationship styles]] and [[protocols]], and even [[Protocol#Linguistic_Conventions| linguistic conventions]] will vary widely between practitioners; there is no precise [[one true way]] to perform D/s.
-Various Linguistic conventions, sometimes referred to as [[protocols]] are often synonymous with D/s.
+== Shop ==
-Some people in the D/s world capitalize words and names that refer to dominants, and do not capitalize those that refer to submissives, hence the capitalization of D/s; others do not. This practice was popularized on internet chatrooms, to make it easier to identify the orientation of the writer or the person being written about and has spread to many other forms of text based communication.
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-Also, some submissives eschew personal pronouns, instead referring to themselves as "this slave" or "Master Bob's girl". This is sometimes considered an expression of modesty or [[objectification]], but it is an entirely optional method of depersonalizing a submissive. It is speculated that this practice may have roots in the military, where new recruits are required to refer to themselves as "this recruit" rather than "I" or "me".
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