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*'''Get Busy''' move a muscle, change a thought.  Do a task to distract yourself, preferably a productive one, something simple and easy like making the bed or doing the dishes.  Not only will you distract yourself, but completing a task will help improve your current esteem levels by providing a sense of accomplishment.
 
*'''Get Busy''' move a muscle, change a thought.  Do a task to distract yourself, preferably a productive one, something simple and easy like making the bed or doing the dishes.  Not only will you distract yourself, but completing a task will help improve your current esteem levels by providing a sense of accomplishment.
  
*'''It goes away''' keep in mind the negative feelings will pass, usually within a few hours to a day.  This will make it seem like a waiting game, but it's better than focusing on and feeding the misery.
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*'''It goes away''' if all of the other techniques aren't working, at least keep in mind the negative feelings will pass, usually within a few hours to a day.  This will make it seem like a waiting game, but it's better than focusing on and feeding the misery.  If you are experiencing severe emotional issues consider if you aren't experiencing paraphilic drop, or if you might otherwise benefit from counselling or having your hormone levels audited to ensure their normalcy.
  
 
== Paraphilic Drop ==
 
== Paraphilic Drop ==

Revision as of 07:31, 2 April 2014

Drop is an experience with similar characteristics of depression that occurs after an intense SM scene caused by adrenaline and endorphin crash.

Parameters

Drop may occur for a top or bottom and while the differences are subtle, they are existent. Primarily the top will more likely experience adrenaline crashes, while the bottom will experience endorphin crashes, while both will experience some of the other type of crash.

Of the two binary roles, bottoms report drop far more frequently. Many tops report never having experienced drop after a scene. As a result, the term sub drop is far more common to hear about, but it is not exclusively the domain of subs, bottoms, slaves or any sort of s-type, nor does experiencing drop make one less of a d-type.

Initial cooldown from a scene will generally create a drop in body temperature and an unstable mood, which is why standard aftercare involves placing a blanket on the bottom.

Symptoms

The symptoms of drop will generally set in within 24-72 hours after an intense scene in which endorphins and adrenaline received a spike commonly associated with sub/top space, and thus will result in a crash with symptoms reminiscent of depression which may include:

  • Difficulty concentrating, remembering details, and making decisions
  • Fatigue and decreased energy
  • Feelings of guilt, worthlessness, and/or helplessness
  • Feelings of hopelessness and/or pessimism
  • Insomnia, early-morning wakefulness, or excessive sleeping
  • Irritability, restlessness
  • Loss of interest in activities or hobbies once pleasurable, including sex
  • Overeating or appetite loss
  • Persistent aches or pains, headaches, cramps, or digestive problems that do not ease even with treatment
  • Persistent sad, anxious, or "empty" feelings
  • Thoughts of suicide, suicide attempts

Severity of drop and symptoms, if they occur, will vary widely between those that experience them.

Tips for Treatment

Several known techniques tend to limit, mitigate and even eliminate drop.

  • Vitamin B and Omega 3If you play on having some heavy play sessions, start taking some extra vitamin B and Omega 3 a few days before the scene and for a few days after. This will help replace many of the minerals that will be lost from your adrenaline and endorphin highs to decrease the potential for drop, and mitigate its effects.
  • Gradual Scene Build Up and Decline Drop is far less likely to occur with gradual scene build up, gradual scene decline, and extensive, intimate, aftercare. This creates more of a wave on the beach effect that slowly recedes back to the ocean, rather than a spike and cliff drop.
  • Eat Chocolate Chocolate helps mirror Oxytocin and allows greater intimate bonding potential during aftercare. Oxytocin release can greatly mitigate the effects of drop.
  • Contact reach out to the person you played with or the person who provided you aftercare if you experience drop, knowing they care enough to talk with you on the phone for a bit, meet for coffee or curl up and watch a movie with you can often eliminate or significantly reduce drop as much of drop is an emotional experience due to hormone imbalance. If they are unavailable or it is inappropriate to contact them, spend time with or call a friend or loved one. If you're not sure who to call because you don't have many vanilla friends, make some kinky friends you can call and can call you during experiences of drop where you can each mutually help cheer each other up.
  • Pampering a bathrobe, some chocolate, a hot bath with candles, good book and some general relax time can work wonders for curing drop for many people.
  • Mild Excercise such as a light job, yoga, aerobics and similar can help release endorphins if you have many left in your body which will help mitigate the experience of drop.
  • Get Busy move a muscle, change a thought. Do a task to distract yourself, preferably a productive one, something simple and easy like making the bed or doing the dishes. Not only will you distract yourself, but completing a task will help improve your current esteem levels by providing a sense of accomplishment.
  • It goes away if all of the other techniques aren't working, at least keep in mind the negative feelings will pass, usually within a few hours to a day. This will make it seem like a waiting game, but it's better than focusing on and feeding the misery. If you are experiencing severe emotional issues consider if you aren't experiencing paraphilic drop, or if you might otherwise benefit from counselling or having your hormone levels audited to ensure their normalcy.

Paraphilic Drop

There is an additional kind of drop, sometimes called "the guilts" which is a form of paraphilia. Paraphilia is not consistant with endorphin crashes, but it can be made worse if the two occur at the same time. If you experience paraphilic drop then consider some of the following:

  • If you are not harming others (this does not include consensual hurting) then there is no good reason to be ashamed of who you are and what you like.
  • Feeling bad afterword is likely to spoil the experience on the whole for you.
  • If you are having trouble reconciling ethics, morality, religion and other concerns with your kink practices consider seeking a professional that is kink friendly to help you work through your concerns. It is important to ensure they are kink friendly, if they are not, you may end up getting advice such as to ignore or bury the vary actions that you enjoy, rather than learning to adjust and enjoy the activities without guilt. Ignoring and burying your desires and feelings is likely just to make the problem worse in the long run.