Scene

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A scene is a BDSM activity or encounter involving one or more people; it may or may not involve sexual activity.

A scene can take place in private or in a club where it can be viewed by an audience. There is an etiquette at most clubs and play parties which regulates how the onlookers may interact with the people in the scene.

In some cases a scene may also be referred to as Play. A scene may also be referred to as a session to set a more professional context and tone, or a pro session to indicate a specific professional transaction.

Anatomy of a Scene

  • Party Etiquette Be Sure to respect the environment you are in when meeting someone new.
  • CIQ This is a great technique to introduce yourself to someone and get them talking.
  • Discussion Most people enjoy being chatted up some before they begin discussion of a potential scene.
  • Negotiation Be sure to set clear boundaries.
  • Scene Preparation Have everything ready to go so that the flow of your scene isn't disrupted.
  • Scene Participate in the BDSM activities that have been consented to, enjoy!
  • Aftercare Be sure to bond with your partner on some level and make sure they will be alright the next day.
  • After Aftercare And check back in with them to ensure they are alright physically and emotionally after a few days.

Scene Preparation Checklist

This is a brief checklist for tops to run through before beginning a typical S&M scene.

  • Negotiation, Consent and Boundaries are all clearly and firmly established.
  • Aftercare areas and supplies are set up in advance for reception.
  • The environment is well suited to the type of scene involved.
  • Appropriate levels of privacy are ensured (Doors are locked, curtains are closed, kids are at the babysitters house, etc.). Remember that involving others that are not negotiated and consenting to the scene can cause a consent violation. See Public play and Invisible protocols.
  • Tools and furniture to be used are free from debris, disinfected, and laid out appropriately. It is bad form to rummage through your toy bag mid scene for a specific implement, though you may prefer implements not be visible to the bottom before they are removed for psychological purposes.
  • All Players are in good or great mental and physical states, to include having a positive attitude and having eaten and hydrated appropriately before play begins.

Use of Music in a Scene

Music in a scene can be a great opportunity to help set a desired mood. Any type of music that enhances and elevates the mood and activities is great but it is also good to have something familiar that won't disrupt the rhythm of the players. If you are a top that is planning the scene consider setting up your playlist for a scene ahead of time as well as taking into consideration extreme musical likes and dislikes of your partner(s) and the activities that are to take place. Consider that a soft and gentle fire massage and a brutal whipping and humiliation scene are likely to have different types of optimal musical accompaniment.

Common genres of music for scenes might include:

  • Classical
  • Dance/House
  • Death Metal
  • Gregorian Chant
  • Rock
  • Trance

Alternative Uses

  • "Scene" or "Scening" is sometimes used as a verb, meaning to act out a scene and may alternately be referred to as dancing, work, or play.
  • "The Scene" is also used to refer to the BDSM / Fetish community. See Culture. Alternately "The Scene" may also refer to Swinging.