Spanking is the act of slapping the buttocks with a flattened instrument of another person for the sexual arousal or gratification of either or both parties. Erotic spankings are commonly combined with other forms of sexual foreplay. The most common type of erotic spanking is administered on the bare buttocks, but can also be combined with bondage in order to heighten sexual arousal and feelings of helplessness.
Those primarily interested in giving or receiving erotic spankings are sometimes known as spankophiles or spankos. Spanking is widely viewed as introductory or vanilla kink when practiced in isolation of other disciplines. Because of it's introductory level of skill, low risk, and widespread appeal, spanking parties are common at dungeons.
Positions for spanking
Positions for spanking include:
- over the knees (OTK) or across the lap of the spanker
- lying face down on a bed or spanking bench
- diaper position (legs held up and together at the ankles as if changing a baby's diaper, genital exposure may be used to enhance humiliation)
- bent over a wooden horse or birching block
- bent under the arm of the spanker
- bent over, touching toes or hands on the knees
Common Spanking Implements
Spanking may involve the use of a variety of flat sided impact implements such as:
- Bare, gloved or ringed hand
- wood paddle or hairbrush
- Cane, leather slapper, or Crop
Specialty fetish attire such as spanking skirts and assless motorcycle chaps are sometimes worn to provide easier access to a bare buttocks without rearranging an outfit.
Best Practices Spanking Technique
Some spanking techniques are more deeper rooted in psychology but this is not always the case. Activities range from a spontaneous smack on bare buttocks during a sexual activity, to occasional sexual roleplay, such as ageplay, to domestic discipline and can involve a wide variety of roles and demeanors that the participants find pleasing.
Be sure to avoid striking bones and strike primarily at the largest and meatiest portions of the buttocks and know all standard safety concerns with impact play. Utilize a warm up for more intense spanking sessions. Using a cupped hand versus a flat hand can help reduce wear on the hand of the spanker. Alternate techniques might include adding a grip or rub after the initial slap, or spanking differing areas of the buttocks for differing sensations, some more pleasant, some more painful. Some partners will enjoy different types of spankings, pain levels, psychology and other effects with spanking; be sure to communicate with your partner. Ask your partner before hand and talk with them about how they most enjoy spanking as part of your negotiations, as different people enjoy different types of spanking.