Trainer

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Trainers are experts of not only their particular craft, but are well studied in how to pass their skills on to others. Trainers may provide a myriad of roles but their key purpose is to pass on information and skills to another.

Training Theory

When retraining certain aspects of the three powers whether for s-types or d-types it is good to know that for most it takes approximately 90 days of intense training to do so. The first 30 are to break the old habits, the next 30 are to replace the old habits with new habits, and the last 30 are to reinforce those new habits to make sure they stick. The US military schedules their training programs along a very similar timeline and structure.[1]

Relationship specific training

Training in the context of a relationship indicates an advanced stage in a relationship an ongoing effort of D-type and s-type to learn the finer workings of what the D type expects from the s type that would be in service to them. This includes teaching the submissive how to act, behave and think for the pleasure of the D-type. Training for these purposes tends to come after a collar of consideration, but before a final collar if such collaring customs are conformed to and the period of training is often considered to be approximately 1 year in length. During the start of this process usually specific protocols and rituals will be experimented with and refined to conform with the specific needs of the relationship dynamic.

S-type Training

Training need not be to a specific d-type for an s-type. Many of the skills that an s-type might use are practical when serving any D-type and can be learned without being owned. Further, many D-types will send an s-type to learn from an experienced expert to expedite and enhance training efforts.

In this case the Trainer is a person(s) who prepares the s-type for the future or present D type. Trainers can provide a wide variety of tasks and experiences so that the trainee can have a broad understanding of etiquette, knowledge of current traditions, use of tools and service based experiences/skillsets just to name a few of the roles.

During this time the s-type may or may not wear a training collar and will negotiate very specifically for what duties that their indentured training will include. Much like best practices concerning mentors, it is wise to be cautious of those that seek to train with ulterior motives.

D-type Training

Much like training for the s-type that is not relationship specific, the d-type will often enter training to enhance certain d-type skills. This may include mirroring or shadowing an experienced Master for a period of time with lots of mentoring conversations and may include some exchange of services, though a training collar is not traditional unlike with the s-type. Further the types of skills being learned will vary greatly from the s-type, many of which are theory, ethics, processes, and other abstract concepts that when finely honed make one a powerful d-type. In this case the Master training the D-type is usually looking to focus the strengths of the D-type in training and shore up any extreme weak points and overall push them to be better versions of themselves.