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Admin: /* Consent Fallacies */

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‎Consent Fallacies

Admin at 20:22, 3 September 2014

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Admin at 20:21, 3 September 2014

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Admin: /* Consent Violation */

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‎Consent Violation

Admin: /* If the bottom feels they were violated, then they were violated. */

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‎If the bottom feels they were violated, then they were violated.

Admin: /* If the bottom feels they were violated, then they were violated. */

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‎If the bottom feels they were violated, then they were violated.

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‎Consent Fallacies

Admin: /* The top is always completely responsible for what happens in a scene; this is what you agree to as a top. */

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‎The top is always completely responsible for what happens in a scene; this is what you agree to as a top.

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	Sexual consent plays an important role in defining what sexual assault is, since sexual activity without consent by all parties is considered rape. Children below a certain age, the "age of consent", are deemed not to be able to give valid consent as understood in law to sexual acts in most jurisdictions. Within the literature concerning sexual activity and consent there is no consensus on a strict definition of the term consent or how it should be communicated. Consent must be voluntary and not obtained by coercion or threats. Consent can be revoked at any moment. [[Best Practices]] indicate to always very explicitly [[Negotiation\|negotiate]] all forms of interaction in a [[Scene]] before it begins, but especially so concerning sexual conduct.		Sexual consent plays an important role in defining what sexual assault is, since sexual activity without consent by all parties is considered rape. Children below a certain age, the "age of consent", are deemed not to be able to give valid consent as understood in law to sexual acts in most jurisdictions. Within the literature concerning sexual activity and consent there is no consensus on a strict definition of the term consent or how it should be communicated. Consent must be voluntary and not obtained by coercion or threats. Consent can be revoked at any moment. [[Best Practices]] indicate to always very explicitly [[Negotiation\|negotiate]] all forms of interaction in a [[Scene]] before it begins, but especially so concerning sexual conduct.

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 == Consent Fallacies ==
-While consent violations are serious matters, not everything that is labelled as a consent violation is a consent violation as some may use this and other terms for unscrupulous purposes.  Learn to protect yourself and your play partners from common dishonorable rhetoric.
+While consent violations are serious matters, not everything that is labelled as a consent violation is a consent violation as some may use this and other terms for unscrupulous purposes.  Learn to protect yourself and your play partners from common dishonorable rhetoric and [[logical fallacies]].
 === The [[top]] is always completely responsible for what happens in a scene; this is what you agree to as a top. ===

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 It is always good to be aware that every person's [[boundaries]] deserve equal respect. Best Practices indicate that it is proper etiquette to ask before touching anybody. This also goes for calling people anything other than their given name or pronoun or standing or sitting within a foot or two of a person.
-'''See also''' [[Negotiation]] and [[CNC]].
+'''See also''' [[Negotiation]], [[Consent Form]] and [[CNC]].
 == Consent Fallacies ==
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 Sexual consent plays an important role in defining what sexual assault is, since sexual activity without consent by all parties is considered rape. Children below a certain age, the "age of consent", are deemed not to be able to give valid consent as understood in law to sexual acts in most jurisdictions. Within the literature concerning sexual activity and consent there is no consensus on a strict definition of the term consent or how it should be communicated. Consent must be voluntary and not obtained by coercion or threats. Consent can be revoked at any moment. [[Best Practices]] indicate to always very explicitly [[Negotiation|negotiate]] all forms of interaction in a [[Scene]] before it begins, but especially so concerning sexual conduct.
 [[Category:Theory]]

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	Sexual consent plays an important role in defining what sexual assault is, since sexual activity without consent by all parties is considered rape. Children below a certain age, the "age of consent", are deemed not to be able to give valid consent as understood in law to sexual acts in most jurisdictions. Within the literature concerning sexual activity and consent there is no consensus on a strict definition of the term consent or how it should be communicated. Consent must be voluntary and not obtained by coercion or threats. Consent can be revoked at any moment. [[Best Practices]] indicate to always very explicitly [[Negotiation\|negotiate]] all forms of interaction in a [[Scene]] before it begins, but especially so concerning sexual conduct.		Sexual consent plays an important role in defining what sexual assault is, since sexual activity without consent by all parties is considered rape. Children below a certain age, the "age of consent", are deemed not to be able to give valid consent as understood in law to sexual acts in most jurisdictions. Within the literature concerning sexual activity and consent there is no consensus on a strict definition of the term consent or how it should be communicated. Consent must be voluntary and not obtained by coercion or threats. Consent can be revoked at any moment. [[Best Practices]] indicate to always very explicitly [[Negotiation\|negotiate]] all forms of interaction in a [[Scene]] before it begins, but especially so concerning sexual conduct.
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		+	See also: [[Consent Form]].
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 == Consent Violation ==
-Just as there are different levels of consent, others may have different threshholds for consent violation. Violation of consent doesn't even require touch; it can include invading someone's personal space, using certain language with someone, or expecting someone to use certain language or obey certain etiquette. There is a huge spectrum of consent violations, from personal space invasions to [[rape]] and assault. Despite the varying degrees of perceived "severity" throughout the spectrum of consent violation, all consent violations are serious matters.
+Just as there are different levels of consent, others may have different threshholds for consent violation. Violation of consent doesn't even require touch; it can include invading someone's personal space, using certain language with someone, or expecting someone to use certain language or obey certain etiquette. There is a huge spectrum of consent violations, from personal space invasions to [[rape]] and assault. Despite the varying degrees of perceived "severity" throughout the spectrum of consent violation, all consent violations are serious matters. Consent violation is not restricted to [[bottoms]], as [[tops]] can and do have their consent violated as well.
 If you have had your consent violated, consider discreetly reporting the behavior to the individual either privately or with a third party present, or to a presiding authority figure such as a [[DM]].  If the violator is not informed of the consent violation they will have no opportunity to accept responsibility for their behavior and make correction; that in mind, it is your choice as to whether or not to tell someone else about a consent violation and you do not have to.  Expect to provide the following details if you should choose to report the violation to an authority figure:

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 It is important to use extensive [[negotiations]] the first time you play with someone so as to understand what their hard limits are.  It is important for negotiating parties to opt in and opt out of certain categories and detail anything that they might feel needs special consideration and trust that the bottom and the top will both act in good faith on what is discussed and agreed upon. It is important to understand that in no case can everything be opted into, or out of, and in some cases definitions will vary, such as one person assuming that [[knife play]] indicates that cutting is acceptable while another does not.  It is important for everyone to be sure they are comfortable with the bottom’s ability to communicate what it is that they want and do not want, in the previous example they might state if they aren't sure if knives include cutting or not and don't want to discuss it, they might simply state "I do not wish to engage in knife play" or more precisely "I do not wish to engage in blood play" as part of the negotiations.
-Similarly, if the bottom or top feels that with the absence of a clearly defined "yes", any alternate activity is considered a clear "no" as far as consent and negotiation is concerned, it is important to communicate that concept to a play partner as this is not a universally understood, adopted, or even desireable style of play for many for a wide array of various reasons.
+Similarly, if the bottom or top feels that with the absence of a clearly defined "yes", any alternate activity is considered a clear "no" as far as consent and negotiation is concerned, it is important to communicate that concept to a play partner as this is not a universally understood, adopted, or even desirable style of play for many for a wide array of various reasons.
 If you are especially unable to trust someone, or are concerned that someone (top or bottom) does not have the capacity to responsibly manage a crisis situation where blame is not clearly placed in the case of an accident, or if you feel they cannot deal with an uncomfortable situation by discussing it reasonably as a responsible adult, do not play with them.

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	It is important to use extensive [[negotiations]] the first time you play with someone so as to understand what their hard limits are. It is important for negotiating parties to opt in and opt out of certain categories and detail anything that they might feel needs special consideration and trust that the bottom and the top will both act in good faith on what is discussed and agreed upon. It is important to understand that in no case can everything be opted into, or out of, and in some cases definitions will vary, such as one person assuming that [[knife play]] indicates that cutting is acceptable while another does not. It is important for everyone to be sure they are comfortable with the bottom’s ability to communicate what it is that they want and do not want, in the previous example they might state if they aren't sure if knives include cutting or not and don't want to discuss it, they might simply state "I do not wish to engage in knife play" or more precisely "I do not wish to engage in blood play" as part of the negotiations.		It is important to use extensive [[negotiations]] the first time you play with someone so as to understand what their hard limits are. It is important for negotiating parties to opt in and opt out of certain categories and detail anything that they might feel needs special consideration and trust that the bottom and the top will both act in good faith on what is discussed and agreed upon. It is important to understand that in no case can everything be opted into, or out of, and in some cases definitions will vary, such as one person assuming that [[knife play]] indicates that cutting is acceptable while another does not. It is important for everyone to be sure they are comfortable with the bottom’s ability to communicate what it is that they want and do not want, in the previous example they might state if they aren't sure if knives include cutting or not and don't want to discuss it, they might simply state "I do not wish to engage in knife play" or more precisely "I do not wish to engage in blood play" as part of the negotiations.
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		+	Similarly, if the bottom feels that with the absence of a clearly defined "yes", any alternate activity is considered a clear "no" as far as consent and negotiation is concerned, it is important to communicate that concept to a top as this is not a universally understood, adopted, or even desired style of play for many for a wide array of various reasons.

	If you are especially unable to trust someone, or are concerned that someone (top or bottom) does not have the capacity to responsibly manage a crisis situation where blame is not clearly placed in the case of an accident, or if you feel they cannot deal with an uncomfortable situation by discussing it reasonably as a responsible adult, do not play with them.		If you are especially unable to trust someone, or are concerned that someone (top or bottom) does not have the capacity to responsibly manage a crisis situation where blame is not clearly placed in the case of an accident, or if you feel they cannot deal with an uncomfortable situation by discussing it reasonably as a responsible adult, do not play with them.

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 In such an instance, it is important for the top to end the scene, be considerate, explain that they did not understand the situation, and offer to help in any way they may reasonably be able to.  It is very important that they be willing and available to talk with the subject openly and supportively whenever reasonably possible.   Failing to follow this procedure does not necessarily indicate any sort of consent violation.
-For the bottom, it is important to effectively communicate their feelings, wants and needs as soon as is reasonably appropriate so that the top may be informed of their current or past situation and learn from it and adjust accordingly.
+For the bottom, it is important to effectively communicate their feelings, wants and needs as soon as is reasonably appropriate so that the top may be informed of their current or past situation and learn from it and adjust accordingly.  Failure to follow this procedure does not invalidate their feelings.
 === Only tops can be dangerous and incompetent. ===