BDSM FAQ
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Contents
- 1 What does BDSM Stand for?
- 2 Is BDSM abuse? How could someone possibly like getting hit with things and not be insane?
- 3 I respect my lover too much to ever hurt them, how can someone possibly love someone they are hurting on purpose?
- 4 Can I live out my fantasies like I've read about in fiction novels and seen in pornographic films?
- 5 I have dark fantasies of some kind, sometimes they even scare me, does that make me a bad person?
- 6 Dominants just seem like jerks that boss people around, who would really want spend all day working for someone like that?
- 7 Do dominants really love and care for their submissives?
- 8 How will I know if I've gone too far? What if I do something terrible? What if I can't stop? What if normal sex is boring forever after I try this stuff?
- 9 This BDSM stuff sounds interesting, what is good starting advice?
- 10 I'm all about getting kinky in the bedroom, but some of this stuff people do is just plain disgusting and/or crazy. How can people possibly like that extreme stuff? It all just seems so sick to me.
- 11 What does "X" word mean?
- 12 How can I make my boyfriend/girlfriend into my dom/sub?
- 13 Is it really domination if it's only online?
- 14 I'm really shy and I'm scared to go to a dungeon or play party, what should I do?
- 15 Why can't I find a partner?
- 16 How do I find a munch?
- 17 What books should I read to get started?
- 18 What does it take to be a real Dominant or submissive, Master or slave, etc.?
- 19 What is the difference between a top, dom and a Master?
- 20 What is the difference between a bottom, sub and a slave?
- 21 How do I get a Mentor?
- 22 How do I train a slave/How can I train to be a slave?
- 23 What's a good list of protocols?
- 24 How can I be a good slave?
- 25 How do I figure out which role I'm best suited for?
- 26 If I go to a dungeon or play party, do I have to play with other people? How am I supposed to act?
- 27 Do I have to have sex with someone in order to play with them?
- 28 Is it really cheating if...?
- 29 What should I do to prepare to meet my new Master or Mistress for the first time?
- 30 Are sadists evil?
- 31 I have something I'm having trouble telling my dom, what should I do?
- 32 Sometimes after I engage in my kink I feel really guilty or shameful, what should I do?
- 33 Why do I feel terrible sometimes after I play when the scene itself was so awesome?
- 34 Do I have to bottom first before being a Master?
- 35 What if my dom tells me to do something illegal?
- 36 What is the difference between letting a Dominant know what your hard limits are and Topping from the bottom?
- 37 How do collars work?
- 38 How do I negotiate a scene?
- 39 Is there such a thing as a no limits slave?
- 40 Is it OK for a dom to say they are sorry?
- 41 Do I have to give control of my finances to my dom/do I have to take control of my sub's finances?
- 42 Are brats really submissives?
- 43 How come no one respects that I'm a Master?
- 44 Is submission a gift?